Parents tell us that taking care of their own well being is very important. They do this by taking time for themselves, and pursuing their own interests. This would include getting out of the house on a regular basis and setting aside time to spend with others.

Taking care of yourself is extremely important. It is important to seek help and support when you need it. This will prevent more serious problems down the road. There is a strong link between institutionalization and caregiver burn out. It’s not selfish to take care of yourself; it is in the best interest of those you care about.

There are some things that may help you take care of yourself:

• Using respite services
• Receiving help from others and sharing some of the care and support for your son or daughter with them.
• Joining a parent or family support group
• Taking time to enjoy a favorite hobby or taking up a new one
• Taking a course on a subject that you would like to learn more about
• Having a power of attorney for personal care and for property
• Taking advantage of the services and supports available
• Accessing all the financial supports for which you are eligible
• Seeking out support for yourself if you are dealing with the loss of friends or a spouse or some other significant people in your life
• Seeking out support for yourself if you are caring for a spouse who is ill
• Considering housing options that might make your life less difficult. The right place to live can make all the difference. This may mean moving from a house into a condo that is easier to manage, for example. Or it may mean moving to seniors building or to an apartment that is subsidized and therefore affordable.

Originally published in: “Facing The Future A Resource Package For Senior Parents.” By Anne Clements, and Developed by Community Living Toronto, in September 1999, as part of the “The Time Is Now” Project.