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Spending money is something everyone does. Here are some strategies to help you be smart when you buy things and some ideas of what you can do if you find out that you have spent more money than what you have available.

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Personal Banking

Here are some strategies to use to be smart and safe in your personal banking including why you should have a bank account, how to choose a bank and the type of account, how to use a debit card safely, how to cash a cheque, how to be safe using online banking, and choosing a good PIN number and online password.

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How to use Connected Families

Time and time again, people with a developmental disability and their families have stated that there is a need to be able to connect with each other on a regular basis. In a survey ConnectABILITY.ca conducted in 2011, 77% of respondents reported that it was fairly or very important to have opportunities to connect and network. In the same survey, 57% of respondents indicated that regular access to a networking internet site was their preferred method of networking. Respondents also told us that they want to use multiple ways of communicating.

Social media is just one of a number of tools to include in your tool box along with e-mail, the phone and in-person conversations. It is a way to allow everyone in on the conversation at the same time while ensuring that all have access to the whole conversation. It provides the opportunity to answer a question once and have it easily accessible to anyone else who has the same question. It can be the first “go to” place to look for an answer to your question and unlike an FAQ section it is dynamic with the possibility of new relevant material being added at any time by members of the community – people with a developmental disability, family members or others in their support networks. You can also have access to the new information as soon as it is posted.

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Connected Families is a social media tool that has some privacy but also allows for opportunities to meet new people who have similar concerns and interests. It is built into the ConnectABILITY.ca community of people with a developmental disability and their support networks.

Connected Families is a meeting place for you to connect with others! This is a place for YOU to talk and connect about everything from the little stuff to the really big stuff, how you solved problems, found resources and found ways to make your dreams happen. You can tell your stories, share your ideas, your successes and even your frustrations. It’s a place to share your tips to help others succeed and find tips that could help you.

How to join ConnectABILITY

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Subscribe to discussions

You can have a notice sent to your email whenever there is a new posting in a topic that you are interested in. Beside the topic title on the right side you will see “Subscribe”.  Click on “Subscribe” and you will have bookmarked the topic. Now whenever there is a new posting in this topic you will be sent an email notice. Please note that you can only subscribe once the topic has been created, so you will still need to go into Connected Families to check out any new topics before you can subscribe to them and have notices sent to your email for new postings in that topic.

Send a message

Connected Families has its own messaging component that allows you to connect directly with a member. The messages do not leave the Connected Families site and do not convey any personal information (including your email address), other than your name, to the person being sent the private message.

  1. Click on “Send a Message” located below the name of the person who wrote the post.
  2. Type the message
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The recipient will receive an email letting know there is a message on Connected Families.

Normal Aging Process

A workshop describing the likely changes to their body systems and functioning abilities as someone ages and strategies to help support a person with an intellectual disability exhibiting these changes.

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Sensory Changes in the Elderly

Centennial College Nursing Students Presentation Series 2012: Sensory changes that occur with the elderly and strategies to overcome the impacts.

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Falls and Fall Prevention

Centennial College Nursing Students Presentation Series 2012: Fall prevention risk assessments and strategies to prevent falls and fall injuries.

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Aging with a Developmental Disability: Strategies for Support

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Shifting Your Thinking: Age-Friendly Person-Centred Support

(A Workshop for front line workers held Wednesday February 26, 2014)

Workers from developmental services, community senior services and long term care are challenged with providing support to an increasing population of individuals aging with developmental disabilities. These individuals may live in locations supported by developmental service agencies, in their own homes/apartments or long term care homes. Individuals with a developmental disability have many similarities to the general population when they age, but they also have some unique differences. There is a need for workers from both sectors to come together, to learn, discuss and share information.

This one-day workshop focused on increasing front line worker competencies to support aging individuals with a developmental disability. In order for agencies to support individuals as they age, staff need to increase their knowledge of normal aging and how this presents in individuals with a developmental disability.

This workshop also includes health care management, aging differences from the general population, dementia best practices including the use of the Early Detection Screening Tool and problem solving techniques for health issues and behaviour challenges.

A Cross-Sector Shared Understanding of Aging:

Presenter: Sandy Stemp, Chief Operations Officer, Reena

Introduction: Setting the context

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Toronto Partnership on Aging and Developmental Disabilities (TPADD)

Presenter: Joanne Meade, Manager of Resident Services, Cummer Lodge

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Normal Aging – What we Know and How it Impacts Individuals with a Developmental Disability

Presenter: Brenda Elias, Faculty, Non Profit and Voluntary Sector Management, Ryerson University and Social Foundations of Gerontology, Family & Community Social Services, University of Guelph-Humber

    • What is Ontario’s Aging in Place Policy?
    • Psychosocial aspects of aging

Critical importance of social networks for maintaining health and wellbeing as we age

  • Leisure, meaningful activities
  • Creating an Age-Friendly Community

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Changing Assumptions, Guidelines & Tools

Presenter: Angie Gonzales, Health Care Facilitator, Toronto Network of Specialized Care

Improve your understanding of health concerns and aging differences in developmental disabilities, and best practices related to community-based dementia care for individuals with developmental disabilities

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Dementia: Changing Assumptions

Presenter: Kari Quinn-Humphrey, Public Education Manager, Alzheimer Society of Toronto

Improve your understanding of dementia & Alzheimer’s disease, best practices and the resources available for supporting individuals with developmental disabilities exhibiting dementia.

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Palliative Pain and Symptom Management

Presenter: Tracey Human, RN, Palliative Pain Symptom Management Consultation Service for Toronto

Considerations for intellectual and physical disability communities of practice – palliative care, hospice, collaborative care planning.

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Is Your House in Order? Thinking Strategically About Aging With a Developmental Disability

(A Follow up session of the 2013 Are We Prepared workshops)

The Compelling Data on Aging in Residential Services

Presenter: Sandy Stemp, Chief Operations Officer, Reena

The historical context and current trends of aging for individuals who have a developmental disability

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Opinions of Parents from the Developmental Services Council

Presenter: Ruth Halperin, Chair of the Aging and Life Long Supports Work Group of the DS Council, Developmental Services Toronto

Ruth presents a summary of concerns, opinions and hopes from parents whose children with developmental disabilities are aging.

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Local Health Integration Network (LHIN) Perspective

Presenter: Jennifer Scott, Director Client Services LTC Placement at Central Community Care Access Centre

An overview of the Local Health Integration Network (LHIN) and the Community Care Access Centre (CCAC) and their place in the Ontario Health System

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Developmental Disabilities and Aging: Issues and Perspectives of the DS Service Providers

Presenter: Sandy Stemp, Chief Operations Officer, Reena

Focus on the perspective of one agency – Reena, the Toronto Partnership on Aging and Developmental Disabilities (TPADD) and Developmental Services Toronto (DSTO)

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An Emerging Practice: The Mary Centre Strategy in Peel Region

Presenter: Terry Elliott, Program Director, Mary Centre Peel

Mary Centre’s Transition into Long Term Care Program provides support to individual’s 50 and older with a developmental challenge. These Individuals are either residing in or preparing to move into a long-term care facility. Mary Centre staff provides a seamless transition between home life and long term care.

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Early Detection Screen for Dementia

The purpose of the National Task Group-Early Detection Screen for Dementia is to offer family and professional caregivers a resource to record their observations regarding changes in areas of cognitive and adaptive functioning known to be associated with dementia. Parent caregivers, who will opt to use the NTG-EDSD, should know that this is not an instrument for the diagnosis of dementia. The intent is that caregivers will use the information captured on the NTG-EDSD to begin a dialogue with health care practitioners and that it will serve as an aid to shared decision-making. https://www.the-ntg.org/

Early Detection Screen For Dementia

Developmental Disabilities, Aging, Supports & Resources

Angela Gonzales and Lindsay Wingham-Smith discuss ways to improve collaborative care planning to support people with issues related to aging with a Developmental disability

Supporting People with IDD as they Age

People with intellectual and developmental disabilities (IDD) are living longer than ever before. This is wonderful news! But, for many people, living longer (aging) comes with some unique challenges. Read more

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Through the MCCSS Innovations Grant, a series of one-day conferences were funded to help develop the linkages and partnerships between Developmental Services and Seniors Services. The following presentations were recorded on Monday March 18, 2013 in Toronto.

Intellectual/Developmental Disability and Dementia; Assessment and Healthcare Practices

Seth M. Keller, MD
The presentation will provide an overview on aspects of aging in adults with Intellectual/Developmental Disability and how a serial assessment of early change in function and cognition can be completed by families and support staff. The diagnosis and recommendations of healthcare practices will be discussed. The progression of dementia with its associated health care complications and concerns and recommendations for care will be reviewed.

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Practice Guidelines

Nancy Jokinen, MSW, PHD
This presentation introduces a set of practice guidelines adopted by the Nastional Task Group on Intellectual Disabilities and Dementia Practices (NTG) to assist families and organizations plan for services and core management strategies in their support of adults with intellectual disabilities affected by dementia. The guidelines delineate actions that can be undertaken from a pre-diagnosis period when symptoms of functional and cognitive decline are suspected through early, mid and late stages of dementia.

Guidelines for Structuring Community Care and Supports for People With ID Affected by Dementia

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Report on a Series of Four Workshops

A summary of the feedback received from the afternoon discussion activities for each of the four communities where a session was held.

Aging and Developmental Disabilities Report on Workshops March 2013

For more information on the report or the appendices mentioned in the report contact Sandy Stemp sstemp@reena.org

Sharing Books with Toddlers, The Hanen Way

By Lauren Lowry, Hanen SLP and clinical writer

The following article is taken with permission from The Hanen Centre from www.hanen.org. The Hanen Centre is a Canadian not-for-profit charitable organization committed to helping parents become the best and most important language teachers for their child. Hanen gives parents the tools to build their child’s language skills during everyday activities and conversations. Visit www.hanen.org for more information.

Toddlers (aged 18 months – 2-1/2 years) have figured out what books are all about, but may or may not be ready to hear a whole story. They enjoy holding a book, turning the pages, looking at the pictures and talking about what interests them. They often have their favourite books, which they want to read again and again!

When reading with a toddler, the main goals include:

  1. Developing his interest in books
  2. Having him interact back and forth with you
  3. Learning some interesting new words
  4. Having fun!

Types of books to read with a toddler:

  • Books with colourful, realistic photographs or pictures – these types of pictures catch young children’s attention, and it’s been shown that toddlers learn more from these images than from abstract or black and white images [1].
  • Board books – books with thick, sturdy pages that are easier for toddlers to hold and turn.
  • Repetitive books – books with predictable, rhythmic language that repeats throughout the book. This type of language will catch your child’s interest and make it easier for him to remember key words as they are repeated often. Examples of repetitive books: “Brown Bear, Brown Bear, What do you see?” by Bill Martin Jr., “Goodnight Moon” by Margaret Wise Brown, or “Hand, Hand, Fingers, Thumb” by Al Perkins.
  • Photo albums – toddlers love to look at pictures of themselves and of the important people and events in their lives.
  • Homemade books – which could include photos of favourite people or things, or objects or remnants from interesting places or outings. See “Make a Book” at the end of this article for more ideas.
  • Short, simple storybooks – books with a simple storyline may interest your child. An example would be “The Very Hungry Caterpillar” by Eric Carle. If your child isn’t interested in listening to the whole story at first, simplify it, or just talk about the pictures.
  • Interactive books – books with parts that move (flaps or tabs) or with things for your child to touch and feel may interest your child. However, there is conflicting evidence about how much children learn from these books. One study showed that typically developing children learned less from books that can be manipulated than from books with colourful, realistic pictures [2]. However, another study showed that children with language delay used more language when looking at interactive books [3]. Read more about these studies.

While looking at interactive books, it is important to observe your child to ensure that the moving parts don’t distract him to the point that he is not interacting with you.

Books to avoid:

  • Lengthy, complicated story books (including fairy tales) – these types of books often involve an understanding of language that is more complex than your child may be ready for. They also require your child to pay attention for a longer period of time. The goal at the toddler stage is for your child to develop a love of books and a love of sharing books with you. Try to choose books that will work with your child’s interests, attention span, and language level.

How to share books with a toddler

  • Let your child choose the book – it’s okay to make suggestions about which book to read from time to time, but allowing your child to choose the book ensures that he is truly interested.
  • Sit with your child, face to face – while traditionally we think of sitting beside a child on a couch or in bed when reading, it is very helpful to face your child while reading. When you are face to face, you can read your child’s cues and find out what interests him about the book. Your child will know you are interested in sharing the book with him if you are looking at him with interest.
  • Allow your child to hold the book and turn the pages – this will ensure that your child is actively involved. Don’t worry if he skips some pages – the goal is to make the book interactive and fun.
  • Let your child “read” the book in his own way – some children will look at a few pages or flip through the book for a few moments. Others will want to look at the entire book. Let your child look at the book at his own pace and according to his interests. You don’t have to finish the book at one sitting!
  • It’s okay to change things up! – you don’t have to read every word on the page. You can simplify the story or just talk about the pictures and not read the words.
  • It’s ok to keep things the same! – some children love to look at the same book over and over again. There’s no need to discourage this. The repetition and familiarity helps your child learn new words and develop a better understanding of the concepts in the book.
  • Wait – for your child to do or say something. After you turn the page or read one page, wait silently. Avoid asking questions or pointing out anything particular on that page. Your goal is to give your child an opportunity to express himself and take turns with you.

Once you’ve found a book your child likes and you are taking turns talking about the book, you can Add Language that will stimulate your child’s vocabulary, understanding, and thinking skills (It Takes Two to Talk® – A Practical Guide for Parents of Children with Language Delays. Pepper & Weitzman, 2004).

“Adding Language” during book reading means:

  • use a variety of words – try to avoid just naming the pictures in the book as this will result in your child being exposed to mostly nouns (names of things). While nouns are important, your child also needs to be exposed to words that describe (e.g. “wet”, “hot”, “tall”), action words (“go”, “run”, “sleep”, “eat”), words for feelings (“happy”, “sad”, “tired”), location words (“up”, “down”, “under”), words about time (“now”, “later”, “after”), etc.
  • highlight important words – emphasize the most important words (the ones that are key to your child understanding the information on the page) with your voice, slowing down, and showing a picture in the book which demonstrates the meaning of the word. You can also use gestures to explain concepts in the book. For example, when looking at a picture of a big elephant, you can outstretch your arms to indicate “big” while you talk about the “very big elephant”.
  • expand your child’s message – when your child says something about the book, you can respond by elaborating on his message. For example, if he says “dog” while looking at a picture of a dog having a bath, you could say “The dog is having a bath”. Adding on to your child’s idea shows your child how to produce longer sentences.
  • build your child’s understanding – your child will gain a better understanding of his experiences and his world when you draw connections between the book and his life. For example, if you look at a book about a trip to the doctor, you can talk about a recent visit your child had to the doctor.
  • build your child’s imagination – books offer a great opportunity to add language that introduces imaginary concepts to your child. Talking about topics like castles, ghosts, or pirates that your child cannot experience in “real life” helps build your child’s language, play and thinking skills.

Make a book

A homemade book, created especially for your child, is sure to become one of his favourites. By following these guidelines, you will create a book together that will be interactive and fun to read:

  • Think about your child’s favourite things and outings – items can include photos of favourite people or things, packages or labels from favourite foods or toys (eg. part of the Rice Krispies box), or photos or small remnants from interesting places or outings (eg. a ticket stub from a show, part of the Happy Meal box from a recent trip to McDonald’s, a stone collected from the playground, a photo of your child getting a haircut or swimming in the lake, etc.). If you follow your child’s lead and observe his interests, you will know exactly what to include in the book.
  • Involve your child – your child can help you select pictures or objects, help you paste the pictures into the book, and decide what to write on the page underneath the picture.
  • Less is more – include just one picture or object per page.
  • Ensure that the “text” makes sense to your child – when your child is the one who decides what to write on each page, it ensures that the text is from his perspective and at his level.

If you follow the guidelines above when you share books with your toddler, you will probably notice that your child:

  • enjoyed sharing the book with you
  • was able to sit for longer than usual
  • communicated with you frequently during the book reading – so that it turned into a conversation!

Please send Hanen feedback on this activity. For a full list of references and works cited, click here.

© Hanen Early Language Program, 2011. Further copying or reproduction of this article in whole or in part, without written permission from The Hanen Centre, is prohibited.

How to Tell if Your Child is a Late Talker – And What to Do about It

By Lauren Lowry, Hanen SLP and clinical writer

The following article is taken with permission from The Hanen Centre from www.hanen.org. The Hanen Centre is a Canadian not-for-profit charitable organization committed to helping parents become the best and most important language teachers for their child. Hanen gives parents the tools to build their child’s language skills during everyday activities and conversations. Visit www.hanen.org for more information.

If you Google “18 month old not talking”, you will find thousands of posts by concerned parents seeking advice about their late-talking toddler. Many of these parents, whose child seems to be developing normally in every other way, say that they are told not to worry, that someone in the family “didn’t talk until they were 3” or that “boys talk late”. Other parents say that their doctor has told them to wait until their child is at least two before seeking help. Often, parents’ gut instinct is to seek help, but others tell them to “wait and see”. After all, wasn’t Einstein late to talk? This can be a very confusing situation for parents who want to do the best for their child.

The “wait-and-see” approach to children who talk late is a result of misconceptions about typical language development. “All children develop at their own pace” is another common phrase parents come across when looking for an explanation for a child’s delayed development. While children do develop at their own pace to some extent, we know that there are certain milestones which should be reached by a specific age. When they are not reached, this becomes cause for concern. While some children seem to catch up on their own, others do not.

Let’s look at what the research tells us about the children we call Late Talkers. Note that in this case, we are not talking about children with physical or developmental delays such as Cerebral Palsy, Down Syndrome or Autism, those with childhood apraxia (difficulty coordinating the muscles used to produce speech) or children with a specific difficulty with understanding and producing language, known as “language delay or disorder.”

Who is a “Late Talker”?

A “Late Talker” is a toddler (between 18-30 months) who has good understanding of language, typically developing play skills, motor skills, thinking skills, and social skills, but has a limited spoken vocabulary for his or her age. The difficulty late talking children have is specifically with spoken or expressive language. This group of children can be very puzzling because they have all of the building blocks for spoken language, yet they don’t talk or talk very little.

Researchers have yet to agree upon an explanation for this specific delay. They have determined, though, that Late Talkers are more likely to have a family history of early language delay, to be male, and to have been born at less than 85% of their optimal birth weight or at less than 37 weeks gestation [1]. It has also been determined that approximately 13% of two year olds are late talkers [2].

Important Language Milestones

The following guidelines can help you determine if your child’s vocabulary is appropriate for his or her age. If your child has not yet reached these milestones, he or she should be seen by a speech-language pathologist:

  • 18 month olds should use least 20 words, including different types of words, such as nouns (“baby”, “cookie”), verbs (“eat”, “go”), prepositions (“up”, “down”), adjectives (“hot”, “sleepy”), and social words (“hi”, “bye”).
  • 24 month olds should use at least 100 words and combine 2 words together. These word combinations should be generated by the child, and not be combinations that are “memorized chunks” of language, such as “thank you”, “bye bye”, “all gone”, or “What’s that?”. Examples of true word combinations would be “doggie gone”, “eat cookie”, or “dirty hands”.

Do Children who are Late Talkers Catch Up on their Own?

Because this group of children is progressing so well in other areas of development, parents and others may assume that they will catch up on their own. Indeed, many late talkers do “grow out of it”, but many do not. It can be difficult to predict which children will not catch up to their peers. However, a list of risk factors has been identified, which suggest that a child is more likely to have continuing language difficulties [4]. These include:

  • quiet as an infant; little babbling
  • a history of ear infections
  • limited number of consonant sounds (eg. p, b, m, t, d, n, y, k, g, etc.)
  • does not link pretend ideas and actions together while playing
  • does not imitate (copy) words
  • uses mostly nouns (names of people, places, things), and few verbs (action words)
  • difficulty playing with peers (social skills)
  • a family history of communication delay, learning or academic difficulties
  • a mild comprehension (understanding) delay for his or her age
  • uses few gestures to communicate

If a toddler has a limited vocabulary for his age and any of the above risk factors, we recommend consulting a speech-language pathologist. Children who demonstrate the final three risk factors above (family history, comprehension problems, or few gestures) are at greatest risk for a continuing language delay [1]. Instead of adopting a “let’s wait and see” approach, The Hanen Centre recommends getting help for toddlers who are late to talk as early as possible.

What about the group of late talkers who seem to catch up on their own without intervention? Even though a large percentage of these children appear to catch up to their peers by the time they enter school, studies are showing that this group of children do not perform as well as their peers in certain aspects of language use such as language complexity and grammar [3]. Therefore, The Hanen Centre recommends intervention for all toddlers presenting as Late Talkers, in order to prevent further language difficulties later on.

What Should you do if your Child is a Late Talker?

If you think your child may be a late talker, it’s never too early to seek help. We know that the earlier we start to help children, the better their outcomes.

You can:

  • Consult a speech-language pathologist about your concerns.
  • Have your child’s hearing evaluated – even if you think your child is hearing just fine, it is important to make sure he is hearing sounds at a variety of volumes and pitches. Even slight hearing impairments can cause difficulties with speech and language development.
  • Find a Hanen certified speech-language pathologist who is certified to offer Target Word® – The Hanen Program® for parents of children who are late talkers, which helps parents learn specific techniques to turn everyday activities into opportunities to build their toddler’s vocabulary. Click here to find out more about the Target Word Program.

For a full list of references and works cited, click here.

© Hanen Early Language Program, 2011. Further copying or reproduction of this article in whole or in part, without written permission from The Hanen Centre, is prohibited.

Follow the Leader: The Power of Imitating Children with Autism

By Lauren Lowry, Hanen SLP and clinical writer

The following article is taken with permission from The Hanen Centre from www.hanen.org. The Hanen Centre is a Canadian not-for-profit charitable organization committed to helping parents become the best and most important language teachers for their child. Hanen gives parents the tools to build their child’s language skills during everyday activities and conversations. Visit www.hanen.org for more information.

If you have a child with autism spectrum disorder, you may find it difficult to join in with him when he’s playing, or to catch his attention when you want to show him something. But when you “follow the leader” by imitating or copying your child, you will discover an easy way to connect with him and get him to notice you.
If you’ve ever played “Follow the Leader” as a child, you’ll remember that one person is the leader, and the others follow along, copying whatever the leader does. You can do the same thing with your child at home, copying his actions, movements, and sounds.

There are many advantages to imitating young children with ASD:

  • Your child chooses the activity – because you imitate something that your child is already doing, he is naturally motivated by that toy or activity. Children are more likely to interact when they pick the activity themselves.
  • You and your child share the same focus – when you are both doing the same thing, it is easier for your child to pay attention to both you and the activity.
  • It helps your child notice you and look at you – when you do exactly the same thing that your child does, it encourages your child to look at what you are doing. Studies have shown that when children with ASD are imitated, they look at the adult more than if the adult plays with them without imitating (1,2).
  • It promotes other social skills – besides encouraging children to look at the person imitating them, children with ASD have also been observed to vocalize, smile, play, sit closer, and touch the adult imitating them (2).
  • It encourages your child to lead – when your child notices that you are copying him, it might encourage him to perform new actions or try new things in an attempt to get you to copy him again.
  • It encourages your child to imitate you – imitating others is a particular area of difficulty for children with ASD (3). The ability to imitate is linked to other skills such as language, and it also helps children learn through observing others (4). Therefore, helping your child to imitate you is an important goal. When you imitate your child, he may notice what you are doing and start to imitate you back.

How to Imitate your Child

This strategy comes from More Than Words® – The Hanen Program® for Parents of Children on the Autism Spectrum

Imitating your child involves letting go of the lead, which means not telling your child what to do or trying to get him to do something else. Your child is the leader in this copycat game. Before you imitate your child, you need to…

  • Observe your child – watch him closely and notice his actions, movements, facial expression and sounds.
  • Once you have noticed what your child is doing, copy what he does!

  • Imitate his actions, movements, or sounds – if your child taps on the table, you tap on the table. If he is jumping up and down, you do that too. Or if he is beating on a drum, grab a drumstick and beat the drum too. Copy any sounds your child makes during these activities. Basically, you want to do exactly what your child does.
  • After you have copied your child, you need to…

  • Wait for your child’s reaction – your child may not notice you the first time. If he doesn’t, copy him again. Or your child may look at you or do the action again. If this is the case, keep copying him. You will eventually get a back-and-forth game of copycat going, when it becomes difficult to tell who is imitating who!!
  • It makes it easier if you…

  • Have doubles of toys/objects – some children get upset if you take their toy when it’s your turn to imitate. By having your own identical toy or object, your child is less likely to get upset.
  • You might also want to try to…

  • Imitate your child in front of a mirror – many children enjoy looking at themselves in the mirror. If you imitate the facial expressions, movements and sounds your child makes while he looks in the mirror, he is likely to notice you.

During moments when it seems difficult to get your child’s attention and interact with him, imitating him can be very helpful. It is a very simple way to help your child notice you, look at you, and interact with you. So let go of the lead and let your child be the leader. By playing copycat, you and your child can interact and have fun, and at the same time your child will learn some valuable social skills.

For a full list of references and works cited, click here.

© Hanen Early Language Program, 2011. Further copying or reproduction of this article in whole or in part, without written permission from The Hanen Centre, is prohibited.