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Safety Tips When Using a Cell Phone

Cell phones are a great tool for ensuring personal safety, but ownership of a cell phone also requires responsibility. Being careless with your phone can result in financial difficulties, and in some cases actually jeopardize personal safety. The following are tips to educate individuals in order to minimize the risks associated with cell phone use:

Never give out your cell phone number to strangers or companies

  • Don’t give out your number to a stranger. They might not be trustworthy.
  • Never give your cell phone number to a new company – it might be used for sales/telemarketing purposes that you did not agree to

Not every call is important

  • It is sometimes considered to be rude when answering your phone in a public place. At times, it can annoy people to the point where a confrontation occurs. Remember that before you had a cell phone people would leave you messages at home and you would return their call. It’s okay to wait until you are in an appropriate place to call someone back.

Be aware of the details when signing up for features.

  • Sales people will often not focus on all of the conditions and costs of the phone, service and features. Make sure that you read all of the details and clarify the real costs and limitations before making a decision. Otherwise, you may be shocked at the cost when you get your first bill.
  • Service providers will often give a feature free for a short period of time. Once the free period has expired you must cancel the feature or it will continue and you will be charged for it on your bill.
  • Getting into a cell phone contract is a legally binding contract. Once you have signed the contract you are responsible for all the costs and conditions included in it.

Use your phone in appropriate places

  • Unless you are lost or concerned about your safety, it is rude to chat on the phone in places where it is not typical to have a telephone such as on the bus, in a store, church, library, Doctor’s office and especially in a movie theatre.
  • If you are somewhere quiet (e.g. library), do not answer your phone.
  • It’s not safe to have personal conversations in public – you don’t know the people who might be listening.

Text messaging

  • Using this feature can cost you a lot of money if you do not have a plan!
  • Never answer texts from unknown numbers – these can be scams that add additional costs to your cell phone bill. For example, a fake lottery asking trivia questions. By answering the questions you also provide your personal information such as a telephone number. This information is then included on lists and sent to other people who are trying to cheat you. Each time a text is sent to your number you are charged.
  • Sending pictures or attachments costs money – if you do not have an unlimited plan, use this feature sparingly
  • Never send your picture to a stranger

Cell phones (and other electronic products such as ipods) are popular items to steal from people.

  • Keep your cell phone in a safe and hidden place. For example, a coat pocket with a zipper.
  • Always know who is around you and be alert for people who maybe following you.
  • If someone tries to steal your phone and threatens your safety let him take the phone. You can always get another phone.
  • If your cell phone is stolen, go to a person in authority (a police, TTC staff) and report it or go to a staff in a store and ask to use their phone to call the police. It would also be a good idea to call home or your support staff to let them know what has happened.

Smart Phones (Blackberry, iphone)

  • A smart phone has many capabilities and can access the internet. Therefore, treat a smart phone the same as a computer – nothing you do is completely private and can be monitored by your internet service provider
  • Be careful what you are viewing on your phone while you are in public – make sure what you are viewing is appropriate or you can get into trouble – as a general rule you should ask yourself “is what you are watching in public something your parents/guardians would be okay with you watching?”
  • Use a hands free device

  • If you drive, don’t talk on your phone without a hands free device. It is not only unsafe – it is also illegal.

Adult Content and the Internet

We live in a world where movies, television, music videos and magazines not only provide us with hours of enjoyable entertainment but they can also expose us to countless images of sex and violence.

Supporting a Child/Youth

Access to websites and magazines with mature, adult content are readily available and are inappropriate and unsafe for viewing by an immature audience. As a child goes through adolescence parents need to make decisions about how much independence to allow their child. Based on your family beliefs and values and your child’s ability, you will need to decide what you are comfortable letting your child decide for themselves. This is especially true where the internet and web sites containing adult content are concerned.

Tips for Parents / Caregivers and Staff:

  • Set boundaries on discussions about sex and sexuality. For example, questions about sex can be asked of parents, health nurses or doctors but they are not a subject to be discussed in public areas or with people you do not know.
  • Physically locate all of the computers in your home (including laptops) in an area where they can be monitored. Make sure the computer screen is facing out into the room. This will enable you to monitor your child’s activities – which websites they are visiting, who they are “talking” to etc.
  • Web sites containing sexual content are often given internet names that are similar to the names of legitimate websites. Access to the content on these web sites can be blocked with the use of filters. Filters can be in the form of a system or a service. Although they can be beneficial, be aware that filters installed at a home or school will not block that material from being accessed somewhere else such as a library or internet café.
  • All internet browsers (e.g. Internet Explorer, Firefox) include a parental control program that helps parents monitor and set limits on the child’s use of the Internet.
  • Check the internet history on your computer on a regular basis to see which websites have been viewed by the users.
  • Limit the time an individual spends emailing or visiting social networking sites like Facebook, My Space, Twitter, etc.
  • If websites or printed material containing adult content are to be viewed by an individual, the person must have reached the “age of majority” for the area in which they live. In Ontario, the age of majority is 18 years old.
  • Stress the importance of doing this in a private place and not in a public space like a library or internet café. Give concrete examples of what is appropriate in a public space and what should be done in private. Make individuals aware of the consequences if this is not followed.

Supporting an Adult

As an adult who is using a computer, you will have access to adult content that may be a potential threat to your personal and /or financial safety. You may not recognize this threat.

One of the best ways to stay safe is to maintain an ongoing open dialogue about what you are doing on the internet with someone you trust. This could be a parent, other family member, a staff, a friend or a volunteer. Someone else may be able to point out safety concerns that you did not think of or were not aware of. Talk about where you are going on the internet – the websites, the chat rooms, the game sites that you are going to, the people you are chatting with and the types of conversations you are having, or anything that may seem strange to you.

Tips for Parents / Caregivers and Staff:

All of the tips included in the child / youth section are still relevant and important for those over the age of 18. However, you need to remember that the individual is an adult and has a right to make their own decisions on what they view on the computer. How you address the issues becomes one of making them aware of the issues and concerns (especially safety, financial and criminal impacts) and working together to ensure a safe experience on the internet.

Risk Assessment Checklist

Circle the bullets that best identify current safety practice.

Home:

  • I lock all doors and I close all windows when leaving or sleeping
  • I have a cordless phone or cell phone
  • I have a flashlight
  • I have a well lit lobby or door to home
  • I take the elevator instead of stairs
  • I don’t open the door to strangers
  • I only tell trusted friends, or family when I’m not at home

Phone:

  • I have a recorded message that does not include: names of people in household, phone number or address
  • I don’t give my name, phone number, or address to strangers on the phone
  • I have caller ID
  • I hang up if a caller is rude or I feel uncomfortable.

Banking:

  • I have my PIN number memorized
  • I do my banking on my own without strangers or new friends watching
  • I ask only banking employees if I need help
  • I don’t share my PIN, debit cards, credit cards with anyone

Internet:

  • I don’t think that the internet is a safe place to meet people
  • I don’t tell anyone on the internet my real name, address, phone numbers, email addresses, passwords, or credit card numbers
  • I tell someone I trust when someone online asks for personal information
  • I do not talk to anyone online that is bothering me. I block them from contacting me.
  • I do not meet anyone I talk to online for friendship or sex when I am by myself
  • I only meet people I talk to online in public

Street:

  • I travel mostly in daylight hours
  • I travel in well lit areas after dark
  • I travel with company after dark
  • I only carry small sums of money when travelling
  • I travel in places where there are lots of other people
  • I do not walk close to a car or van to talk to a stranger even if they ask me a question
  • If I feel scared I go to a safe place for help
  • I know people in my area that I can go to for help
  • I have friends or family that live in same neighbourhood
  • I keep looking around when I am out alone and I know who or what is around me
  • I go where there are other people and ask for help if someone is following me
  • I carry a cell phone when I go out

Health:

  • I feel comfortable with doctors or healthcare professionals
  • I speak up if I am not comfortable with any medical practice or procedure
  • I have a friend, or support person who will come with me on Doctor’s visits
  • I have a good family doctor that I trust

Sex:

  • I have sex only with people I know and want to have sex with
  • I use condoms or birth control to protect myself from disease or unwanted pregnancy
  • I talk to my doctor, and other women I know about condoms and birth control methods
  • I choose to use a birth control method that works for me and I always use it
  • I feel comfortable talking to my partner about sex
  • I have a partner who listens to my needs when it comes to sex

Relationships:

  • I have not been pushed, hit, kicked, punched, bitten, burned, injured by use of weapon, or objects thrown, by partner, family members, caretakers, or friends
  • I have not been unwillingly touched, forced to have unprotected/protected sex, exposed to, or forced to participate in pornography or prostitution
  • I have not been threatened, put down, embarrassed or humiliated by unwelcome comments or behaviour from my partner, family members, caretakers, worker, or friends
  • I pay my own bills, do my own banking, and decide what I want to do with my money
  • I have not had money or property stolen by friends, family, or partner
  • I am able to practice my own spiritual beliefs
  • I have a plan to stay safe if I choose to stay with someone who hurts me
  • I have a plan to stay safe if I choose to get away from someone who hurts me
  • I have supportive friends and family
  • I have someone that I trust and I can go to for help if anyone is hurting me

*Un-circled bullets identify areas of safety risk

Download a printable checklist PDF

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Street Safety

  1. When leaving home, make sure that all doors and windows are locked – including the garage door.
  2. Watch out for people who are just hanging around and seem to be doing nothing, and do not carry large sums of money.
  3. If possible, travel with another person that you know well. This is especially true after dark.
  4. When carrying a purse or wallets, only place two or three five dollar bills inside. Credit cards, money, driver’s license, and keys should be carried in a coat pocket or hidden inside zipped pocket.
  5. At night, travel on well-lighted and busy streets. Avoid unlighted areas. Walk in the middle of the sidewalk and never in deserted areas.
  6. Walk on the side of the street where you would face oncoming traffic. If someone in car stops, walk or run in the opposite direction.
  7. Be careful of people who approach asking for directions or the time of day; keep a polite but safe distance. Do not let others use your cell phone, especially strangers even if they say it is an emergency. If there is an emergency you call 911 on your phone.
  8. If you feel someone is following you, go to the nearest house or building with people inside and ask for help.
  9. If you feel that you are in danger, cry out for help by yelling “FIRE! FIRE!” instead of “HELP”! This will grab the attention of others really fast!
  10. When returning home, after dark, unlock your door and get in quickly. If you think someone has broken in don’t go in leave and call the police.

Tips for Avoiding Being the Victim of a Street Crime

What criminals don’t want in a victim:

  1. AWARENESS: Know where you are, where you’re going and what is happening around you. This includes people, events taking place around you.
  2. RIGHT PLACE AT RIGHT TIME: Know about the safety of a neighbourhood and if you’re not sure ask someone you trust before you go there. Don’t walk or drive alone while in a bad neighbourhood.
  3. AGRESSIVE BODY LANGUAGE: Stand or walk confidently by keeping your head up, swing your arms and stand up straight. Always be aware of what is going on around you. Also, keep your distance when walking past strangers on the street or in dark areas.
  4. BE ON THE MOVE: While in a strange neighbourhood, focus on where you are going and get there. If you are in your car, think twice before staying there with the car doors unlocked before you drive off. If you are in a parking lot that might be unsafe, get in your car, lock the doors and leave.
  5. HIDE VALUABLES: When walking in a bad neighbourhood or at night, DO NOT WEAR flashy or expensive jewellery. Also, keep your purse inside your coat or tucked close to your body. Do not carry a loose bag or backpack.
  6. HIDE YOUR HAIR: Criminals will use things that they can pull on you. If you’re in a dangerous neighbourhood, consider putting your long hair up in a hat or tucking it inside your coat. Do not wear loose scarves, belts and backpacks or place them inside your coat.
  7. LOOK SCARY: If a criminal does not see you as being difficult or threatening, you could be the next victim. This can be quickly changed if you decide to carry something large and blunt such as a large golf umbrella or walking stick.

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Relationship and Sexual Safety

Safe Relationship Tips

  1. Love yourself. It is important that you are comfortable with yourself. Know your own strengths and be proud of them. If you are happy with yourself, you will be a happier partner.
  2. Share your feelings. If you are upset or concerned, talk about it. Working through difficult situations builds trust and helps make relationships even stronger.
  3. Don’t assume you know what someone else is thinking or feeling. If you want to know what is on your partner’s mind — ask. Make sure you are ready to hear the answer.
  4. Spend time on your own. Sometimes people think a healthy relationship means spending all your time together. It is actually healthier for people to spend time with different people than with just one person. That way they can develop their own interests and talents and grow as individuals.
  5. Communicate openly and honestly about sex. This is the only way your partner will really know what is comfortable for you and what gives you pleasure.
  6. Take care of your sexual health. In a healthy relationship, both partners want to protect their sexual health. Getting checkups for STDs and practicing safer sex are important. Make an appointment with your doctor or at a Clinic to get birth control, tests and treatment for sexually transmitted infections, and information about your sexual health.

Sexual Safety Tips

Avoiding Abuse:

  1. Know how your body works
  2. Know that you have the right to say “No” to sexual touch or activity of any kind
  3. You have the right to tell someone you trust if someone touches you without your permission
  4. Know the difference between behaviour that is ok in private, but not in public
  5. Know when it is ok to be touched by a stranger (e.g. doctor check-up)
  6. Touching another person without their permission is not ok
  7. Talk to your partner about sex and what you both like and dislike
  8. Be clear about what sexual contact is not ok for you
  9. Carry a whistle

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Internet Safety Tips

  1. NEVER give out any personal information such as your address, telephone number, or the name and location of your workplace
  2. NEVER agree to get together with someone you ‘meet’ online without taking a trusted friend or family member with you to meet in a public place
  3. ALWAYS agree to meet in a public place
  4. NEVER send anyone your picture – Don’t accept any pictures either
  5. NEVER respond to any messages that make you feel uncomfortable
  6. ALWAYS remember the people you meet online are still strangers. The people you are talking to may not be who they say they are
  7. NEVER send an insulting or rude message to anyone online.
  8. Use a fake name, code name or a nick name
  9. Report any harassment or nasty messages to your online service and to the Police
  10. Set your browser to say NO to ‘cookies’

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Banking Safety Tips

  1. Never lend your card to anyone. It is the key to your bank account and is for your use only.
  2. Protect your Personal Identification Number (PIN). Memorize that number instead of writing it down for safe keeping. Don’t choose an easy PIN to guess, like 111 or 222 or something like your birthday that other people could easily guess.
  3. Never give your PIN to anyone. NOTE: No one from your bank will ever ask you for your PIN.
  4. Have your card ready when going to the automatic teller so that you can get your money quickly and safely.
  5. Be aware of anyone hanging around the area of your automatic teller. If you are suspicious of anyone or anything then leave right away and contact the police.
  6. When using the bank machine, use your hand or body to prevent others from seeing what you are doing with the buttons.
  7. Remember to get back your card, your cash, and your transaction record after you have finished using the machine.
  8. After you have your cash, do not count it at the machine. Place it in your purse or wallet and count it later, privately.
  9. Report any lost or stolen cards to your bank and police right away.
  10. Never give your card information to anyone on the phone unless it is a company that you have contacted first.
  11. Never lend your credit/debit card to anyone.
  12. Sign new credit/debit cards as soon as you get them and destroy the expired ones.

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Safety Includes Me

Safety Workshop

A six week workshop “Safety Includes Me” is a workshop that caters to women living with an intellectual disability who have experienced violence and would like to be involved in violence prevention and education work. The content of the program was developed with the input of women living with intellectual disabilities. The program includes workshop outlines, pre-assessment survey sample, risk assessment checklist template, safety plan template, knowledge quiz sample, and safety tip sheets.

Training Manual

Tip sheets

For more information please contact
James Holzbauer, Danielle Pittman

Communicating for fun Calendars

Parent and Child Activity Calendars to Promote Better Speech, Language and Hearing

About the Calendars

The Calendars provide activities for all children, but will be very helpful for children who have special needs. These are activities that you and your child can do together. The calendar activities are available for three age groups and reflect distinct developmental stages. Children with special needs may develop at a different or slower rate than other children. To find out what stage your child is at, look at the Developmental Milestones Chart from the Preschool Speech and Language Program.

The calendars have activities for each day of the week. Every week has a theme which makes the activities fun and interesting. You can choose a calendar for each season, or for special holidays, as well as for everyday activities.

Key Words

On the bottom of each calendar there are some key words to use throughout the week with your child. The key words reflect the theme of the calendar and will help to build your child’s vocabulary, language and listening skills. Young children are not learning to spell words but should be starting to recognize the sounds of words and letters. Oral language (talking and understanding words) is the start of learning to read and write. On the second page there is a picture with each of the key words. You can print the Calendar and the key word pictures and put them on your fridge or on the wall where your child will see them everyday. Looking at the pictures and naming the item will help your child to recognize the word. Using the word in a sentence or story will help younger children to recognize the word and older children to understand how to use the word when they are talking.

The aim of the activities and key words is to develop better communication skills:

  • hearing (listening),
  • speech (sounds, words), and
  • language (message, ideas).

The calendars provide a focus on speech, language and hearing skills as your child explores, learning more about themselves, others, and the world around them.

Families may:

  • take longer than a week to do the activities
  • choose only some of the activities
  • do the activities in a different order
  • adapt or vary the activities
  • do different or extra activities

There is no right or wrong way to use the calendars. They are to help your child by providing lots of chances to play and learn. Many of the activities will be ones that you already do with your child. The difference is that you will be thinking about your child’s speaking and listening skills and providing your child with the chance to learn new words and expand their communication skills.

Communicating with Your Child

Some helpful pointers when talking and communicating with your child:

  • Become involved in what your child is doing – talk and ask questions about the activity.
  • Play, read, and listen to music with your child – be excited.
  • When your child points, makes faces, or makes a sound -put words to it and describe what they see or do.
  • Don’t do all the talking – give your child a turn to talk.
  • Praise your child – recognize your child’s efforts to communicate.
  • When playing and talking with your child make sure you are face to face with them – sit on the floor, bend to their level.
  • Encourage your child to use words and talk as much as possible.
  • Have fun!

For more ideas about helping your child to communicate check out the Tip Sheet section for the stage that your child has reached.

Calendar Tips for Toddlers

Most Toddlers Will:

  • Understand more words than they can say.
  • Follow simple directions (such as: “Show me your ear.”, or, “Put the doll to bed.”).
  • Answer “yes” or “no” questions.
  • Make animal sounds.
  • Use two to four word sentences (“More juice”, “Me do it”).
  • Use describing words (big tree, hot food).
  • Enjoy listening to stories, songs, and rhyme.
  • Have short conversations with people they know.

Things to Keep in Mind When Helping Your Toddler:

  • Talk slowly and clearly, using 2 to 4 word sentences.
  • Label everything – point to items and say the name “Table, Daddy’s chair, your chair.”
  • Tell the child what you are doing – describe your actions. “I am stirring the pot.”
  • Read books with pictures. Point to the pictures and describe what you see. “Look at the funny bear.”
  • When your child labels an object, expand on it. (When your child says, “Flower”, you say, “Pretty flower” or “Yellow flower.”)
  • When your child tries to say a new word, repeat it. Encourage every new word.
  • Do the calendar activities with other children so that your child can practice talking and listening, and learn how to communicate with others.

Are You Concerned about your Toddler’s Speech, Language or Hearing?

Seek Help if your Toddler:

  • Has repeated ear infections.
  • Does not play or is not interested in others.
  • Has problems making him/herself understood.
  • Speaks using very few words, or never puts two or more words together.

Trust your Instincts!! You know your child best and if you have concerns contact the Preschool Speech and Language Program or Infant Hearing Program in your community. You do not need a referral from a Doctor and the program is free to residents of Ontario.

Calendar Tips for Preschoolers

Most Preschoolers Will:

  • Use sentences with 4 to 6 words. (“I go get my doll.”)
  • Give and follow directions.
  • Understand the meaning of in, on, and under.
  • Tell stories and sing songs.
  • Ask and answer questions, such as who, what, where, why.
  • Makes themselves understood by other people 60% of the time.

Things to Keep in Mind When Helping your Preschooler:

  • When playing games together, take turns with your child.
  • Count everything.
  • Provide your child with chances to choose (“Do you want to wear your red or blue shirt?”)
  • Use picture books and have your child come up with his/her own story.
  • Do the laundry together. Sort clothes by colour, where they belong, type of clothing.
  • Pretend with your child, with or without toys.
  • Sing songs, say rhymes, do finger plays and do all the actions with your child.
  • Talk with your child about things that are the same and things that are different.
  • Encourage your child to play with other children.

Are You Concerned about your Preschoolers Speech, Language or Hearing?

Seek Help if your preschooler:

  • Becomes frustrated when trying to communicate.
  • Repeats words, but does not know what they mean.
  • Puts only two words together at a time.
  • Has problems listening and being understood.
  • Stutters often.

Trust your Instincts!! You know your child best and if you have concerns contact the Preschool Speech and Language Program or Infant Hearing Program in your community. You do not need a referral from a Doctor and the program is free to residents of Ontario.

Calendar Tips for Kindergarten

Most Kindergarten Age Children Will:

  • Follow three-step instructions, such as: “Pick up your coat, hang it up, and close the closet door.”
  • Answer open-ended questions: “What do you think?”
  • Tell or repeat stories using detail.
  • Use complete sentences, like that of an adult.
  • Use describing words in their sentences, such as: small/big, under/over.
  • Know most colours and numbers up to 20.
  • Explain the meaning of words they know.
  • Be able to problem solve, figure simple things out.
  • Start to recognize letters and their sounds, as well as certain signs (eg. stop sign)

Things to Keep in Mind When Helping the Kindergarten Age Child:

  • When labeling objects, encourage your child to use the word/object in a sentence. (“Teddy bear” – “That is a big, soft teddy bear.”)
  • Read books related to the weekly themes. While reading stories, talk about what is happening in the book. Ask questions such as, “What do you think will happen next?”
  • Build on what your child is saying. (Name the colours of each object-red, green; use the names of flowers-tulip, rose; name the parts of trees- trunk, leaves)
  • Give your child little jobs. When you make a craft, let them do the cutting; when cleaning around the house give them a job they can do weekly; have them describe the weather every day.
  • When doing the activities, give your child choices. (“Do you want the blue or red paper?”; “Do you want to set the table for lunch or supper?”)

Are You Concerned about your Kindergarten Age child’s Speech, Language or Hearing?

Seek help if your Kindergarten age child:

  • Doesn’t talk, listen, or mix with other children or adults.
  • Has a hard time following directions.
  • Does not speak in sentences.
  • Cannot get other people to understand them

Trust your Instincts!! You know your child best and if you have concerns contact the Preschool Speech and Language Program or Infant Hearing Program in your community. You do not need a referral from a Doctor and the program is free to residents of Ontario.

If your child has already started school talk to the Classroom Teacher about your concerns. The school Principal can make the necessary referrals to have your child screened or assessed by a Speech-Language Pathologist.

Calendar Tips for Professionals

Using the Communicating for Fun Calendars

Communicating for Fun Parent and Child Activity Calendars are designed to help all children with activities that promote speech, language and listening skills. Incorporating the calendars into your child care programs is a way Communicating for Fun calendars can be used for the benefit of all children. The activities can easily be extended and adapted to fit your program. Copies of a theme calendar may also be sent home with each child to accompany your program theme.

Calendars

  • The calendars have been divided into three different age groups – Toddler, Preschooler, and Kindergarten Age.
  • Each of the age groups share 20 common themes for each of the 20 weeks – in total, there are 60 different calendars. Themes include special holidays, seasons, animals, transportation and everyday events.
  • Each week you can display a calendar and highlight the activities you are going to include in your daily program.
  • Copies of the calendars and the Key Word graphics can be sent home with parents to hang on their fridge or notice board.

Age Specific Tip Sections

Tip Sheets have been developed for each age group and include a list of the skills most children of that age will have and suggestions on how to interact with the child to promote communication. The suggestions are geared to each developmental stage.

Concerned about a Child’s Hearing, Speech or Language?

The age specific Tip Sheet Sections also identify indicators that could suggest that the child may need extra help and a referral to a Speech-Language Pathologist or an Audiologist. Parents that are concerned can contact the Preschool Speech and Language Programs or the Infant Hearing Program in their community for help.

As the professional involved with the child, you may need to encourage or support a parent to make the connection with these programs. The Preschool Speech and Language Program Brochures provide lists of Developmental Milestones for Babies and for Preschoolers. You can print the brochures and review the information with the parent. The lists are available in 16 different languages.

Services from the Preschool Speech and Language Program or the Infant Hearing program do not require a Doctor’s referral and are free to residents of Ontario.

SOURCE: Ontario Association for Families of Children with Communication Disorders (OAFCCD) and Community Living Tillsonburg (2009)